Hoe word je een goed leugenaar?

door Vulpius

Nog een leuk artikel op Lifehacker.

Lies of All Shapes and Sizes

The sorts of lies you tell have an impact on their difficulty, but a small white lie can require as much upkeep as a hefty one. […] but hopefully the point is clear: when you tell someone you like something to spare their feelings, it requires a lot of upkeep.

Upkeep

Upkeep can be really difficult because it requires having a good memory. If you make one little white lie once in your life, you can probably remember what you said. Most of us have lied more than once, and we’re inevitably caught because we can’t keep track of everything.

Managing Your Lies

The easiest way to manage lies is keep them to a minimum. The fewer you tell the less work you have to do to manage them. If you’re going to lie, use them wisely. The key is to add truth to the lie so it’s tied to something honest. This makes lies easier to remember because it’s tied to actual memory and more believable because you’re also telling the truth. For example, if you broke a vase because you threw a tennis ball in the house while playing with your dog and you’d prefer to blame the dog, you can easily use what happened to shift the blame. Instead of admitting to throwing the tennis ball in the house, you can instead say this: you were playing with the dog, you set the ball on the counter when you were finished, the dog—still playful—went after the ball and knocked over the vase in the process.

Avoid Excuses When Possible

All of that said, excuses rarely help when you offer them up. Staying calm and keeping it simple is your best bet. While you don’t want to hide from the problem, you also do not want to launch into a detailed explanation of what happened in fear of being caught. Have a detailed lie planned out, but only use the pieces you need. Normal human interaction doesn’t involve laying out every detail. When you talk about something in most situations, you say what you need to say and move on. Lies should follow that same strategy of normal behavior. It’s hard to prove someone’s a liar, in most cases, because evidence isn’t conveniently available to the target of the lie. Liars are more often discovered because they exhibit abnormal behavior when lying. Such a shift from normal behavior makes people very suspicious.

Do Things Liars Don’t Do

Lying is easy, but acting like you’re honest is a bit more difficult. Honest people are responsible. They admit to their mistakes and bad behavior. They apologize.

Closeness is Key

Lying inherently causes us to keep our distance from people. We often don’t notice the body language and signals we exhibit, but our tendencies lean towards backing off when we’re uncomfortable. Lying makes most people uncomfortable, so you want to make sure you don’t keep your distance. Again, this goes to acting normal. If applicable, don’t be afraid to use physical touch when lying. If you’re with a good friend or someone you’re romantically involved with, chances are you normally touch them in your general interactions. When it makes sense, do what you’d normally do. You don’t want to go for a random, awkward hug, but be sure to keep closeness and touch in mind for when you can use it appropriately.

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