Hoe omgaan met een INTJ

door Vulpius

Aardige post met een handig lijstje van tips omtrent hoe “om te gaan” met een INTJ.

Here’s a concise guide on how to survive first contact with an INTJ. Not all INTJs will fully conform to (or even agree with) all these points… there’s a wide spectrum of variation out there.

So please don’t take this too seriously: INTJs, after all, tend to take things seriously.

Het meeste klopt nochtans wel:

  • INTJs enjoy tearing things apart to understand them.
  • They will gladly argue a point they don’t actually support, just for the sake of argument or to probe things.
  • INTJs do have a strong sense of humour, often dry and quick, but also a bit warped.
  • INTJs like to do lists, enumerations, pattern sorting and putting things into an ordered state.
  • Try to be both concise and precise.
  • Don’t expect an INTJ to respect anything you (or some other authorities) say just because you (or some other authorities) say it. INTJs bow to one authority only: rationality.
  • For an INTJ truth is more important than simply being right, so they will readily admit errors or mistakes. INTJs unfortunately expect others to work likewise (and react bewildered if they don’t).
  • Stick to a statement after being proven wrong by facts or reasoning and an INTJ will treat you as an irrational idiot.
  • Clumsy attempts at political correctness and similar aberrations will greatly amuse them.
  • Expect punctuality and exactness.
  • They tend to be quite forgetful in everyday life.
  • You can’t trust that an INTJ takes something, anything for granted.
  • Remember that INTJs believe in workable solutions.
  • Their way of showing that something you say (an idea, a suggestion) has potential or merit is by trying to pull it apart (which shocks those poor souls who instead expected awe or admiration). The ultimate INTJ insult to an idea or suggestion is to ignore it altogether, because that means it’s not even interesting enough to deconstruct.
  • Do not expect INTJs to care very much about how you view them. They already know that many people see them as arrogant bastards with a weird sense of humour and they long since got used to it.
  • INTJs, in the privacy of their minds, frequently think the unthinkable and expect the unexpected. So don’t be taken aback if they express little or no surprise if something “impossible” happens.

De volledige lijst staat hier.